One of the many concerns we have from some of our couples is, "We want to be able to enjoy our day and feel special, but we also HATE being in the spotlight!" If you have similar sentiments regarding your own upcoming wedding day or have already had this thought about your future wedding, here are some tips to help you enjoy your big day! Decide how long you want the ceremony to be and work with your officiant on the elements that you are comfortable with. Whether it's minimal speeches, a shorter timeframe, or more guidance from your officiant, there are so many ways to remove some of the "pressure" surrounding your ceremony. Some couples will even legally get married at their local courthouse and just have a cocktail & reception with guests at a later date, skipping a super public ceremony altogether! Do vows ahead of time privately. Personal vows are so special and are words to be cherished forever throughout your married life, but it may be too nerve-wracking at the thought of reading these in the presence of your family & friends. That's totally okay! We see couples share their vows in private to one another ahead of the ceremony in so many special ways. Face to face, back to back, through letters to one another, the options are endless to have these vows kept between just you two :) No receiving line or expectation to visit tables. We know a lot of couples feel pressure to visit all of their guests and make sure they say hi to every table. Yes, the people at your wedding are important and have hopefully impacted your life in one way or another. They are also there to enjoy & just celebrate with you! Let these conversations be natural and don't feel like you HAVE to visit every table, instead share a dance with some friends, have a drink with those coworkers, take a selfie with your cousins, it's okay to spend time with these people in more organic ways. Keep the guest list as low as possible so that those surrounding you are supportive and stress-free. Following up on the last point, keeping your guest list small or as low as possible will help a ton with being able to see everyone and avoid feeling overwhelmed. Be picky with who you invite and be 100% positive they will only add to good energy and positive vibes. Your day will be guaranteed to be enjoyable! Let the planner know if you need time following ceremony and later in the reception to be alone. There's no moment in time like the few moments with your love right after the ceremony. To take in everything that just happened and let the adrenaline calm a little bit is often an overlooked idea. These moments will set you up to feel refreshed for the reception to follow! If you need a break during the reception or want to plan for one, your planner can help arrange this as well to make it as natural as possible where no one will even know you've stepped away for a few minutes! Elope! If despite all of the above, the idea of a wedding just stresses you out socially or mentally, eloping is an amazing option too! There's something really beautiful about sharing your wedding with a select and intimate group. You can follow it up with a private dinner together or just call it a day with some cake & champagne. We're here to make you as comfortable as possible with your wedding day, contact us today and book your FREE discovery call to find out how our services can be assist you! Vendor List
Photography: Nicole Sepulveda Photography Planning, Officiant & Harp: Tan Weddings & Events Venue: Fairmont Sonoma Mission Inn Cake: Let Them Eat Cake Florals: Bloom & Vine HMUA: Carrie Aldous Dress: Custom Kinkades Suit: Staud Comments are closed.
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